A Message from “The Family”: A Threefold Approach to Fear Mitigation

Mister Rand has been experiencing a great deal of anxiety concerning the fate of gay half-Jewish psychics like himself under the present political system. While to an observer this may seem a dread unlikely to be fulfilled due to the specificity of its parameters, Mister Rand’s fears are generated not by reason but by memory:

  • Mister Rand’s memory of his secular Jewish father’s dread of antisemitic persecution;
  • Mister Rand’s memory of persecution at the hands of his abused and abusive older brother;
  • A memory of the sense of Otherness which caused Mister Rand to hang back from full involvement with life from an early age; and
  • The memory of other incarnations to which he is linked on a spirit and soul level.

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The multidimensionality of persistent, fearful life outlook cannot be ignored without sometimes severe repercussions in the life of the fearful one. In our observations of human existence, it appears to us that the best approach to take for clearing the soul of such limitations is an approach that employs physical, psychological, and perceptual tools in more or less equal measure.

Physical, because the neuromuscular systems bear their own memories of pain inflicted upon them in the sometimes deep past, pain that can respond well to empathic bodywork, tension-relieving exercise, dietary changes, deep breathing, progressive relaxation, sexual play, and certain medications;

Psychological, because even the most rational humans, contemptuous or dismissive of such notions as Inner Child, Inner Parent, and intergenerational trauma transmission, can respond positively to mental fear-mitigation practices such as therapeutic mentorship, mindfulness training, support group involvement, and journaling; 

Perceptual, because the way one views reality can have stress-relieving, stress-inducing, or numbing effects on the sufferer, depending upon the world-view adopted.

(Mister Rand is somewhat embarrassed by our discussing his vulnerabilities so publicly. We remind him, however, that he has complete control of what we say and how it is disseminated. We further remind him that, as his neglect of this blog has allowed his followers and their “hits” to dwindle to almost nothing, it is highly unlikely that what he writes here will spread like wildfire across public media.)

Next Time:  Fear mitigation exercise #1 — Identifying the fears that rule you.

Uncovering Blocks To Progress

I haven’t written much in this blog since the spring of 2018, and I’ve been trying to figure out why. So I’ve turned for insight to a template called The Wheel of Creation, first channeled by my late partner and psychic business associate Stuart “Alex” Lucker and expanded upon by me over the years since his death.

The Wheel of Creation: 7 Keys to Manifestation.

The Wheel of Creation is a great template to use when trying to figure out how to manifest a desired experience, things like business prosperity, physical health, or an improved intimate relationship. And the Wheel is also a really useful tool for helping figure out what’s blocking the manifestation of a desired experience.

Over the years, my clients and I have found the Wheel of Creation template incredibly useful for figuring out what might be blocking us from achieving a wide range of specific goals. For example, I could use the Wheel to help achieve some of my physical goals (“developing and following a nurturing fitness plan”, “generating $400 of additional income this month”); emotional goals (“reducing nighttime anxiety contributing to chronic insomnia”, “reducing toxic levels of shame about my body size, shape, proportions, and age”); intellectual goals (“coming up with a dynamite conclusion to my nearly-finished science fiction murder mystery novel, Centaur Station“); and spiritual goals (“improving my sense of conscious contact with the Divine Heart of Love”).

The Wheel of Creation

My Big Problem Right Now: Unblocking This Spirit Blog

Now my problem with this spirit blog is not that I haven’t been manifesting it. I’ve done so for years. The problem is that I stopped manifesting it for months. Why? Addressing the questions on the Wheel above, I methodically work through each, asking myself, “How might this apply to my difficulty in returning to regularly writing and posting my blog?”

PASSION: What specific, concrete vision do I really want this blog to manifest? What comes up: Financial prosperity—I want it eventually to attract at least four paying clients a week; a sense of purpose; a sense of worth; spiritual experiences while “channeling” my blog as “The Family”; a sense of wonder that I can share with others; helping others find hope.

BELIEF: Do I truly feel I deserve my dream? What comes up: Yes, I deserve the aforementioned vision to be fulfilled, as long as it hurts no one in the process or gives me a swelled head. Do I truly feel it is possible given my true present inner & outer circumstances? What comes up: Unsure. I don’t have a lot of expertise with Internet marketing. I don’t have a fund of capital to invest in a business. And part of me is afraid that if I do become successful and visible, I will become the target of hate and scorn from Fundamentalists and skeptics.

STRATEGY: What series of steps must I take today to get from where I really am to where I really want to be? What comes up: (1) Today, ask for help from Spirit. (2) Today, seek via Duck Duck Go (the search engine I prefer over Google, as Duck Duck Go doesn’t track where I go and what I do) “blog promotion on Internet.” (3) Today, go to my Facebook pages and assess how I can use them to get the word about my blog out there. (4) Today, send out a link to my blog to all my former and current psi clients, just to let them know it’s out there. Ask, “What sorts of issues/topics/avenues of enquiry would you like to see me cover on my blog?”

Next Time: A report on what results my research has come up with so far. •

Rand Lee and “The Family”: Claiming Your Core Truths

Rand writes: 

I have never had the gift of faith. This may seem a strange thing to say for a man who’s spent years doing psychic readings for people, but it is true nonetheless.

I grew up under the influence of my antireligious, agnostic father. When my father died suddenly, it threw me into internal chaos; and not long afterwards, on a beach in New Jersey, I accepted Christ as my personal Lord and Savior. I was seeking community—a safe place to hide from my sexuality, because the covert incest in my childhood family made me feel my body was ugly and bad, and that my homosexuality was something to be ashamed of.

I got involved in a series of Bible-believing Christian congregations: Annapolis Bible Church in Annapolis, Maryland; then, when I moved to St. Louis, Missouri, Grace and Peace Fellowship. (Both faith groups still exist.) I did everything I was told, stayed celibate, studied Scripture, attended services, even went to Bible College and graduated with a Bachelor of Arts in Religious Education. The Christian communities I embedded myself in were by and large groups of honest, genuinely committed, kind people who accepted me as one of them and valued the contributions I made to the community.

I spent seven years trying to make the Christian faith work for me. But I seldom if ever felt the sense of relief and connection to God that other converts had described.

When I got into psychic work in my thirties, I felt hope for the first time that reality was bigger and more wondrous than the materialist viewpoint permitted. And I felt hope that the condemnatory religion I had tried to fit into was not the ultimate truth of the Divine.

Now, at 67, I face a daily choice: do I live in the world of my fears and doubts, or do I claim the core truths my spiritual experiences have shown me? For a Feeler type like me, who tends to believe what he feels at the moment, this is a daily challenge. •

The Family comments:

Mister Rand has been feeling recently that his time on Earth may be drawing to a close. He is wondering whether we are real; he is questioning his career choices; he is reviewing his life, as older people do, in preparation for his next encounter with Death.

He is also eating a great deal of chocolate, both for the consoling effects of sugar as well as the endorphin-stimulating effects of certain chemicals naturally present in cacao, the fruit from which chocolate is made.

Nothing impedes him from following his current hopes to their logical end, for there is something within Mister Rand that has tired of the life he has permitted himself in his present body.

He is not actively suicidal. When he engages in his intuitive psychic work and channeling, he is able to set aside his ego-maintained fears and doubts and serve as a clear channel for information and energy of use to his clients. After a client session, Mister Rand is hopeful, for his sense of connection to All-That-Is maintains Itself for a time. Eventually, however, his fears and doubts return, triggered often by loneliness and regret over paths not taken [and loved ones lost to death].

He has given us permission to speak candidly of these issues because he believes admission of humanness will give his readers  encouragement to be similarly frank in their verbalization of their inner challenges. But is the doubting, fearful Mister Rand, beloved and love-worthy though it may be, the truest Mister Rand?

We think the answer to this is “No, not entirely.” The truest Mister Rand is the Mister Rand who declares his deepest truths when confronted by the tsunami of materialist, pain-based criticisms so prevalent on the Internet and in skeptics’ literature, criticisms mirroring his own distaste for paternalistic, hierarchical religion that condemns those who are different, and materialist scientism that insists only that which can be reproduced under repeated laboratory conditions can be known to be true.

In his truest self, Mister Rand knows that the spiritual experiences he has had are genuine experiences arising from interaction between Mister Rand’s physically-focused self and Mister Rand’s Dream-self. At core, Mister Rand’s mystical experiences have emphasized several important truths, truths upon which he rests all his hope and certainty.

  1. We are all ultimately safe.
  2. Love is the answer to all imbalances physical , emotional, intellectual, and religious.
  3. Gender is an experience, not a core identity.
  4. Everything in physical reality changes sooner or later.
  5. Suffering is neither a sin nor a virtue. The proper response to suffering is acceptance of the experience with intent to learn from it.
  6. Learning from suffering involves asking questions, and asking for help not only from Spirit, but also from persons who have experienced similar suffering and moved through it stronger than before.
  7. Suffering, like everything else in physical reality, always comes to an end. It never lasts forever.
  8. Suicide is not a sin. In many cases it is the logical response to a physical and/or emotional life that has become unbearable.
  9. God needs no worship, belief, or even thanks, for It is complete in Itself, and desires only opportunities to reveal Its love to us.
  10. God most often reveals Its love to us through accidental events, and encounters with animals, humans, music, art, and nature.
  11. Both universal oneness with the Divine and individuality are true.
  12. You will never have to reincarnate if you choose not to.
  13. Stories of reuniting with loved ones at death are true.
  14. Fervent group belief can skew probabilities so that local reality tends to behave in ways that underscore that shared belief.
  15. Water is Love.
  16. Fire is Love.
  17. Air is Love.
  18. Earth is Love.
  19. Void is Love.
  20. You are Love.
  21. Your best friend is standing quietly right behind you at this very moment.

– Channeled by Rand Lee 2/3/2019, 9:49 PM Mountain Time.

Dealing with Negative Thought-Forms

According to the levels of reality system originally channeled by my late partner, Stuart “Alex” Lucker, “Thought Reality”—sometimes referred to as the “astral plane” or the “plane of Mind”—is the sum total of all conscious minds. Anything that anybody has ever thought, is thinking right now, or will be thinking 10 minutes, 10 days, 10 weeks, 10 months, 10 years, 10 centuries, 10 millennia from now, all these minds meet and color one another in Thought Reality.

We’re not talking just profound, enlightened, fascinating, beautiful, ennobling  minds here. We’re talking shallow, resentful, boring, ugly, destructive minds, too. If you’re the sort of person who happens to be psychically sensitive to the Thought Reality plane of existence, you can feel bombarded at times by feelings, thoughts, and mental impressions that did not originate in your own brain.

Such overwhelm is particularly prevalent in these modern times. Through most of human history, people were unable to read or write. Furthermore, we had contact with those outside our local group only occasionally—as late as the 19th century, many living in rural communities seldom traveled far from their birthplaces, to the point where, at some places in England, people from one village could not understand the dialect of people from a village 20 miles away. (When I was a boy in the Fifties and Sixties, there was an illiterate woman in Roxbury, my local Connecticut village, who had never been to the larger town of New Milford, 11 miles away. When asked why, she’d replied that she had thought of going there, but really hadn’t seen the need.)

In rural days humans got our sense of the world outside through reports from occasional travelers, rumor, tradition, folktales, and the teachings of local religious leaders. All that began to change when the growth of cities brought different populations in close contact with one another, and when literacy began to grow beyond the boundaries of monasteries and convents into (what we would now call) secular society. And in the centuries since, the advent of schools, trains, newspapers, motor vehicles, radio, the telephone, television, cell phones, and the Internet have opened millions of us—sensitives and non-sensitives alike— to the thoughts and feelings of others in a way that would have been thought impossible even a hundred years ago.

How do we protect ourselves from Thought Reality overwhelm? Various suggestions include:

  1. Relaxing: Feet flat on the floor, take a slow breath in and a slow exhale. Breathing normally, mentally go up your body from the soles of your feet to the top of your head, noticing any area that feels tense or agitated. Breathe in again, and as you exhale start relaxing your muscles starting with the top of your head and proceeding down to the soles of your feet. As you progressively relax, imagine an invisible, lightweight, force barrier is forming around you from the top down. It lets in light, air, sensory information, and love, but keeps out all negative thought-forms, no matter how loud or scary.
  2. Confronting: Sometimes a particularly disturbing thought-form will leap into my consciousness. When this happens, instead of fleeing it or shoving it under the surface (which ultimately makes such thought forms stronger), I imagine myself turning and facing it. In my mind I say, in a strong, demanding voice, “Who are you really? And what do you really want?” Then, whether it replies or not, I choose either to imagine a gigantic spirit-animal (such as an elephant) stomping the thought-form flat; or I imagine a flood of Divine Love pouring down upon it, absorbing it into Itself.
  3. Writing: Sometimes it helps me to sit down with a pen and paper and write down everything the negative thought-form is saying to me or showing me. I can even draw a picture of the thought-form if I want to. the act of writing down the thought-form begins to separate myself from it, and robs it of power.
  4. Change the Channel: TV, radio, and the Internet bombard us 24 hours a day with frightening imagery and information. When I consider turning off the negative thought-form spewing TV, radio, computer, or iPhone—or switching over to a more positive channel on those devices, such as the Good News Network— I get voices that say things like, “Coward! Real grown-ups don’t deny the evil in the world!”, or, “If you don’t listen to our warnings, how will you protect yourself and your loved ones when the disaster strikes?” Change the channel anyway. If the thought-form persists, see #2 above. 

What techniques have you found assist you in repelling or disempowering negative thought-forms? Let me know and I’ll print them here! •

Focusing on this image can help me to dissolve the power of negative thought forms

A Message from Rand: The Ruling Fear Meditation

My late partner, Stuart “Alex” Lucker, channeled a writing exercise designed to help people identify what we want—or fear—most about a certain situation or aspect of our lives. This exercise, which I call the Ruling Passion Meditation, can be applied to subjects we would consider negative. So for this blog post, we’re going to take on the topic of our fears.

The Ruling Fear Meditation

  1. Number a sheet of paper  from 1 through 21 down the lefthand side.
  2. Set your timer for 5 minutes.
  3. Now write down everything you are afraid of, big, small, and in between. Write down whatever occurs to you, no matter how you are tempted to deny it. (Only you are going to see this exercise sheet, so you can be totally honest with yourself.)
    • The fears you write down might include fears around physical matters such as money, an upcoming vacation, losing one’s job, the roof of your house caving in, screwing up the math exam, contracting a terminal illness, nuclear war, being cut out of mother’s will, bankruptcy, staying fat forever.
    • Your fears may include inner, feeling-oriented matters such as a spouse leaving you for someone else; trouble with in-laws; the safety and happiness of your child or pet; rejection by teachers, family, and potential life-partners; feeling alone and unloved.
    • Deep intellectual, spiritual, and ethical fears, too, can be listed, such as fear that death is the end and a loving Higher Power is a fantasy; fear you have missed your true life’s purpose; fear you have chosen the wrong profession; fear that your work accomplishments will be derided, stolen, disproved, or forgotten.
  4. Try to come up with 21 different or related fears, one fear per line. If you can’t think of 21, or if you think of more than 21, list all those you can think of and stop there.
  5. Next, we’re going to grade the fears by intensity.
    • Set your timer again, this time for 2 minutes.
    • Read each fear in turn, asking yourself, “On a scale of 1 through 5—1 being the absolute worst, and 5 being simply bothersome—how strong is this fear in me today?” Number each fear from 1 to 5. Go down the list ranking each fear as quickly as possible, guessing if you’re not sure; don’t overthink it.
    • Now put a check mark next to all the fears you ranked number 1 or number 2. These are your Ruling Fears, the things, people, situations, and/or outcomes you most dread. Now you can take these fears and work on finding all the support you may need for taking action on how to prevent what you most fear from manifesting.


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A Message From “The Family”: On the Loss of One’s Youth

Mister Rand is often overwhelmed by feelings of loss, particularly the loss of his brother, Jeff, to AIDS when Jeff was 35 years old. Losing his body is also a concern for Mister Rand. He is now 67 years old, and weighs 268 pounds, with osteoarthritis and pinched nerves causing pain in lower back, right side, ankles, and knees, particularly upon rising or attempting to walk. Although his heart is healthy, a genetic inheritance from his motherline, Mister Rand can no longer do the many physical things he enjoyed doing before the accident that triggered his pain. So Mister Rand grieves the loss of that capable, strong body, in part because now he must ask for help to accomplish things that he used to be able to do himself, and he was taught by his family and broadcast culture that men must be independent and self-reliant or they are weaklings worthy of despisement.

Why do bodies change over time? They change over time because, in physical reality, everything changes eventually, from galaxies on down to the paramecia in your digestive tract. Bodies can be thought of as conscious meat machines. All machines wear out or break down with long use or poor use, even if they have been regularly examined and treated for their conditions. Eventually, every machine needs to be replaced with a new one, including the machine of the human body.

In your advertisements, the photographs are always of fit, goodlooking people. In America, these people are usually Caucasian, and dressed in the style of the upper economic classes. Even in magazines devoted to older populations, the photographs are of the fit and beautiful, because there are products or services the advertisers in these magazines wish to promote, and they have found that pictures of real-looking people—people with wrinkles, or too much fat, or other divergences from the model community from which the advertisers draw their actors—do not attract readers to the products or services the advertisers wish to sell to them.

The problem with this ubiquitous image-saturation is that it trains readers to think of youth and fitness as the human norm, a snapshot of core humanness, with the result that humans who no longer possess these qualities frequently develop loathing for their bodies. And that loathing can lead to sometimes fatal self-neglect.

The reason why humans can be led to obsess about the youthful and fit is [partly] biological: the body has built into it by evolution a passion to join sexually with another, fertile body capable of engendering progeny.  [What physical attributes humans find most attractive vary from culture to culture.] A worldwide cultural study that Mister Rand read about found that there are only two things all cultures tend to find most attractive in men and women: in men, shoulders wider than waists, and in women, hips wider than waists, both evidences of genetic fertility. Attraction to breast size and penis size—hallmarks of American porn—are culturally based, not biologically based. So is the idealization of large buttocks found in some African cultures, and the attraction to small feet [found] in certain Asian cultures.

How does one deal with the grief one feels at the loss of one’s youthfulness? One first acknowledges it, taking a serious look at one’s physical capabilities as they truly are, not as one wishes they were. Then one asks questions of appropriate persons, questions [firstly] aimed at achieving understanding of the physical changes that have taken place; and secondly, questions aimed at achieving understanding of which changes can be ameliorated by changes in eating and exercise habits and which probably cannot. Next, one makes the decision to treat one’s body with the loving respect it deserves as the noble workhorse it has been since one was born into it. “Would I treat a beloved pet, or a beloved child, the way I treat my body?” is a question Mister Rand has found useful to ask, for he has found that often he expresses anger towards his body in passive neglect or active abuse of it.

Physical reality can be a place of pain, emotional and physical. Learning to live in physical reality necessitates accepting that one cannot thrive in spacetime all on one’s own.  So grief over the loss of one’s youthful bodily capabilities necessitates sharing one’s grief with others who can empathize without judgment. Sometimes these are genetic relatives; more often, in Western culture, these are friends, support groups, or counselors. But one must become willing to feel, and support is essential to dealing with the feelings that arise. •

— Channeled Dec. 19, 2017.

 

 

 

A Message from “The Family”: Soul Winter

Many individuals periodically undergo a transformational process characterized by a numbing of response to physical events and relationships. This process can be confused with depression, for they bear a certain likeness to one another: lassitude; lack of interest in recreational activities; a tendency to allow personal  cleanliness and grooming to languish. But the transformational process, which we call Soul Winter, goes far deeper than simple depression. It is a process whereby the soul decides whether or not to stay in physical reality.

The bulk of this process is not conscious. That is, the owner of the soul is usually unaware of the decision being weighed by his or her innermost self. But when the decision is finally made, the conscious self may be struck by a sense of urgency, a feeling that his or her time may be running out; or by a feeling of absolute certainty that nothing more can be accomplished or experienced in physical reality that would be worth the effort of doing so.

What happens when a soul decides it is time to shed the body and move on? Often, death takes place, and not necessarily by conscious suicide: an illness that has lain quiescent suddenly worsens; an accident sweeps the body away; another human, apparently randomly, causes the soul’s body to cease functioning. And sometimes the death comes by the soul’s own hand. This happened with Mr. Alex, Mr. Rand’s lover, who took an overdose of pain killer when he had decided that he did not wish the experience of a slow, painful death from AIDS.

Does this mean that every human who dies through illness, accident, suicide, or another’s violence decides to do so? No. Most individuals in those situations are not ready to die, and if they had the power to avert their deaths, they would do so readily. But individuals undergoing Soul Winter are different. Such individuals’ deaths take place after a lengthy process of disconnecting from spacetime, characterized by three stages: comprehensive life assessment; increasing detachment from relationships once treasured and activities once engaged in with joy; and, finally, a release of identification with career, loved ones, and body. Whereupon death usually comes quickly.

And that death can take two forms: physical death, culminating in the soul abandoning the body to the earth; or, more rarely, complete transformation of the personality, including all its passions, its purposes, and the focus of what it wishes to create and experience while still in the body. This latter experience of death while still in the body is often referred to as the “walk-in” experience, in which personality transformation is assumed to be caused by the original soul leaving the body and a different soul taking its place in the body.

While not ruling out the possibility that such a thing might conceivably take place, it is our observation that most cases classified as “walk-ins” do not involve a soul being replaced by a new one, but a soul maturing into its true life-purpose.

Mister Rand asks us why we have selected this topic to write about tonight. It is because the current upcoming winter season will be bringing many individuals into the process of assessing whether continuing in physical reality is worth doing in their present bodies and period of history. And we wish to make it known that suicide, whether conscious and deliberate or via apparently random accident, is not a sin which some God will punish. For God is Love in all parts of Itself, and thinks nothing of Itself, but only of Its creation, and how It can win Its children back into conscious union with It.

Mister Rand expresses fear that our saying this will encourage some readers to kill themselves. We do not expect that such a thing will happen, for most of the readers of this blog are interested in furthering their personal growth while still in the body. We say these things, rather, to offer consolation to any readers who may have lost a loved one to suicide. Your beloved is safe in the womb of the Celestial Mother, a womb so vast that all of physical reality might fit within it. And some day, when it is right, you will rejoin your beloved there.

And we thank you for sharing. •

— Channeled December 7, 2017, 1:04 A.M. U.S. Mountain Time.