A Message From “The Family”: On Living Without Fear

surrender“Fear is the mind-killer” as one of your writers has said. Fear paralyzes. Fear energizes. Fear eats away at reality, shrinking it until there is no room in it left to breathe. Awareness of fear is the first step in learning to overcome fear. Listening to fear, and learning from it, is essential if one is not to be ruled by fear.

Fear comes from a sense of vulnerability, a belief that something essential can be taken away from one by another. Underlying this meme are the assumptions that there is a difference between self and other, and that self and other are opposed. In fact this is not true in most cases. In most cases, the forces that appear arrayed against one are not enemies at all. They are simply obstacles. They do not threaten out of malign intent. They simply exist for their own purposes, which appear to run counter to one’s own.

Consider the career criminal who makes a habit of mugging old ladies. Or the violent police officer on the lookout for a victim. These are forces of nature, mindless, purposeless, driven by chemistry and morphology to seek out and inflict pain upon others. They are Pan in the Tarot deck, physical reality as God: accidental, unavoidable.

Or so they seem. In fact most terrors can be avoided if they are heeded and learned from.

Mister Rand finds this assertion appalling. He is driven by the belief that those who inflicted pain upon him intended him harm. What he does not understand fully yet is that abusers do not really see their victims. They see only themselves. Abusers are always intent upon destroying something in themselves that they believe has caused them pain, and it is this they are attempting to destroy when inflicting abuse upon their victims.

Mister Rand says, “But for practical purposes they are enemies. It is they who hit, or cut, or rape, or destroy, or gas one to death. You are splitting hairs,” he says. Yet we say that it is useful to separate out the personal from the abuse situation. Much of the true harm of the abuse comes from the abused taking the abuse personally; i.e., believing that I have brought the abuse upon myself because of something bad in me that deserves punishment. Is it not rather that the abuser would abuse anyone over which he or she felt he or she had power? Then your victimization is not the result of anything in you good or bad. You are simply in the wrong place at the wrong time from your viewpoint, like a small creature who happens to stray into a roadway just as a tank bears down upon it.

The first clue to recovery from abuse is as we see it: do not take it personally. You are not the cause, no matter what the abuser has told you. You are simply the convenient outlet for passions and frustrations that have nothing really to do with you at all. This is a hard thing to hear, and harder to accept, for as your psychologists have said, a child would rather be abused by a parent than ignored completely. But abusers do not see their victims. They see only themselves.

We will speak further on this.

— Channeled 6 November 2013.

To Control Absolutely

Benito_Mussolini_and_Adolf_HitlerTo Control Absolutely is the least creative level of consciousness, for a civilization and for an individual. It springs from a belief that the Creation is my enemy, that disaster is always immanent, and that the only way I can survive is by controlling every aspect of my environment.

Absolute monarchy is one way the consciousness level of To Control Absolutely has manifested itself in human history. The pharaohs of ancient Egypt, the Aztecs of the New World, the Roman Catholic Church during the Inquisition, the Tsars of medieval and early modern Russia, the Soviet Union under Stalin and Lenin, Nazi Germany under Hitler, Communist China under Mao, all operated from the level of absolute control. Some people claim that that is where the United States is headed, too, and such claims are gaining ground with the recent revelations of massive warrantless private information gathering on the part of the U.S. government. Individuals can adopt this consciousness level, too. Cult leaders, slave owners, abusive spouses, extreme obsessive-compulsives, and serial killers all have the need to control others absolutely.

Another way this level of consciousness can manifest itself is in those it victimizes. To Be Controlled Absolutely is the flip side of To Control Absolutely. Kidnap victims who identify with their kidnappers, villagers who accept the divine right of kings, spouses who stay with their maniacally jealous abusers, all are operating on this level of consciousness, which is why oppressed individuals can grow up to become oppressors in their turn.

Of course, physical reality is always changing. Nobody can hold on to absolute control for very long, even if they can truly attain it. In the end, entropy breaks down all systems of control. 

NEXT: To Force.