To Accept With Intent To Learn

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At the heart of consciousness is a level I call To Accept With Intent To Learn. One achieves this level of consciousness simply by saying, “Yes,” to whatever spiritual, intellectual, emotional, or physical pain one finds oneself resisting.  Please note that “To Accept With Intent To Learn” is not the same thing as:

  • To agree that the pain is just;
  • To agree that I deserve the pain because I am a bad person;
  • To surrender to the pain and let it overwhelm me;
  • To wallow in the pain; or
  • To glorify the pain as a some kind of spiritual, moral, or ethical martyrdom.

To Accept With Intent To Learn means that I accept that this is the situation I am experiencing right now and that I wish to acknowledge it fully so I may learn from it. In other words, I agree to cooperate fully with the reality of a painful situation so that the problem underlying the pain can be solved and the suffering can be relieved.

Taking this attitude of acceptance instantaneously raises consciousness from the uncreative levels I call To Control Absolutely, To Force, To Threaten, and To Blame to the next level of consciousness, which I call To Understand Physically.

Many of us find it much easier to accept and learn from others than we do to accept and learn from ourselves. Therefore the flip side of To Accept With Intent To Learn is To Accept Oneself With Intent To Learn. Taking this attitude of self-acceptance instantaneously raises consciousness from the uncreative levels I call To Permit Oneself To Be Controlled Absolutely, To Be Forced, To Be Threatened, and To Accept Blame That One Does Not Deserve to the next level of consciousness, which I call To Understand Oneself Physically.

NEXT: To Understand Physically.

Fear of Flying

If it is true that we come into physical reality to create new experiences for ourselves, how does one explain the fear that comes up when new opportunities for experience present themselves to us?

Why do I hesitate to cross new thresholds? Why do I balk at making changes? How do I explain—and overcome—my near pathological resistance to expansion?

Sometimes the reasons for my resistance to change seem obvious. I have known for a long time that part of me prefers to remain on the borderlands of life, half-hidden, half-invisible, lest standing in the full limelight expose me to others’ criticism, envy, or hostility. Part of me holds back from social interaction—parties, support groups, public events—for fear that the people I meet will reject me or, worse still, treat me with indifference.

And part of me resists exploring new territory out of fear that I will enjoy myself too much—fear that some God or other will punish me for having a good time while so many are suffering and in pain.

In my saner moments, I do not believe that God is like this; I do not believe that God resents my happiness. In my saner moments, I do not believe that enjoying my happiness, excitement, or wonder will cheat anybody of anything. In my saner moments, I know that when God opens a door for me, God will not punish me for walking through that door to see what experience awaits me on the other side.

Greater Self, help me to be sane today. Help me to understand in the deepest part of myself that wherever I go, there You are: You, Who know me intimately down to my smallest subatomic particle; You, who support me utterly without question; You who desire nothing from me because You are complete in Yourself; You, who are Love in all your parts. Exposed to the light of Your love, all fear dissolves, for I know that You will never abandon me, and that wherever I end up in my journey into expansion, You will be there waiting for me: familiar, wonderful, my oldest and dearest Friend.

The Wheel of Creation: Action

ImageExternal action is necessary to make my dreams come true. That is, I must take tangible steps to create the physical networks, resources, and structure sufficient to support my dream when I download it from the dream-state into physical reality.

So far, in the first four blogs on the Wheel of Creation, we have dealt with largely internal action steps: passion (recognizing what I truly want), belief (expanding my value and cognitive understanding sufficiently to permit my dream to become a reality), and strategy (coming up with a mental plan for connecting to the resources necessary to download my dream into spacetime). Now we face the task of taking action to actually apply our strategy on a day to day basis until our dream is realized and our passion is satisfied.

Some issues to examine when considering this step:

  1. What specific act can I accomplish today, just as I am, with all my present imperfect resources, strengths, and skills, to get one step closer to making my dream a reality?
  2. If I feel overwhelmed by the idea of taking action, my strategy may be an idealized one that does not begin with where I really am. I may need to go back and refine my strategy so that each step is doable (with help).
  3. If I keep not taking action on a well thought out strategy, it may be that my vision of what I truly want to create is not sufficiently clear, or that its manifestation appears to threaten something I secretly want more. I may need to go back and do the Ruling Passion Exercise to get in touch with what I truly want, not what I think I should want.
  4. Fear can block me from taking action. If I believe that I will be punished for being successful I will tend to drag my heels at applying my strategy. So I must rework my strategy to include steps for acknowledging and working with such fears when they arise.

As a general principle, I tell my clients not to let three days go by without taking a step to get closer to realizing a specific dream. But no matter how hard I work to reach such a goal, I will not be able to do so without support.

NEXT: The Wheel of Creation: Support.

Evaluating Your Ruling Passion Exercise

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In my previous blog I outlined an exercise designed to help you clarify what you really want out of your ideal partner, career, pet, vacation, community (and any other area of experience you can think of). I urged you to choose a dream or goal or experience, then write down twenty-one physical, emotional, intellectual, or spiritual elements you feel your dream, goal, or experience must contain if you are to be truly satisfied.

Now it’s time to evaluate the twenty-one elements you have identified as essential to your ideal dream.

  1. Go to the top of your page and read the first element you listed. Now read the second element you listed. Now ask yourself, “Assuming my ideal dream will contain both these elements I have listed, which element is the more important to me?” For example, let’s say I’ve listed twenty-one elements I believe are essential to my dream career. And let’s say the first element I wrote down was “lots and lots of money.” Now I would compare item #1 to my second listed item, which let’s say is “government contracts.” Next I would ask myself, “Rand, assuming your ideal career will bring you lots and lots of money AND government contracts, which element is more important to you?”
  2. Following your gut instinct, circle the number of the element that feels more important to you or which excites you more or which feels the more core of the two. Remember: you are not giving up one of your ideal elements in favor of the other. You can have both. You are just prioritizing the two. TIP: Some people find that placing one hand on their stomachs or over their hearts makes it easier for them to tune in to their priority.  Let’s say I choose number 1, “lots and lots and lots of money.”
  3. Now take the element whose number you circled (in my case, “lots and lots and lots of money”) and compare that element to the third item on your list, which let’s say is my hypothetical case is “three-month luxury vacations.” Ask yourself, “Which do I feel is more important, the first element whose number I circled or element number 3 on my list?” In my hypothetical case, assuming I may have lots and lots and lots of money from my ideal career as well as three-month luxury vacations, let’s say I still feel the money is more important—more core to my dream—than the vacations. But I could just as well have chosen the vacations over the money, again, assuming I can have both. Circle the number of the element you prefer.
  4. Continue down the list, comparing the last item you circled with the next item on the list, until you have finished the list.
  5. Now go back and read each element in your list that you circled on your way down the list. You may have circled the same one throughout, or changed your mind several times. The point is, the very last element that you circled on your way down your list is the Ruling Passion for your ideal dream: that is, it represents the element you feel deep down is the most important quality, experience, or benefit that your dream is designed to bring you. And the other elements you circled on your way to the last one you circled are the Secondary Passions your ideal dream is designed to fulfill.
  6. Remember, you do not have to give up the elements you ended up not circling. They remain important. But in working the Wheel of Creation to make your ideal dream come true, it is the Ruling Passion and Secondary Passions you will need to keep focused upon as you plot the strategies, actions, support, and communication required to manifest your heart’s desires.

Next: The Wheel of Creation: Action.