In my previous blog I outlined an exercise designed to help you clarify what you really want out of your ideal partner, career, pet, vacation, community (and any other area of experience you can think of). I urged you to choose a dream or goal or experience, then write down twenty-one physical, emotional, intellectual, or spiritual elements you feel your dream, goal, or experience must contain if you are to be truly satisfied.
Now it’s time to evaluate the twenty-one elements you have identified as essential to your ideal dream.
- Go to the top of your page and read the first element you listed. Now read the second element you listed. Now ask yourself, “Assuming my ideal dream will contain both these elements I have listed, which element is the more important to me?” For example, let’s say I’ve listed twenty-one elements I believe are essential to my dream career. And let’s say the first element I wrote down was “lots and lots of money.” Now I would compare item #1 to my second listed item, which let’s say is “government contracts.” Next I would ask myself, “Rand, assuming your ideal career will bring you lots and lots of money AND government contracts, which element is more important to you?”
- Following your gut instinct, circle the number of the element that feels more important to you or which excites you more or which feels the more core of the two. Remember: you are not giving up one of your ideal elements in favor of the other. You can have both. You are just prioritizing the two. TIP: Some people find that placing one hand on their stomachs or over their hearts makes it easier for them to tune in to their priority. Let’s say I choose number 1, “lots and lots and lots of money.”
- Now take the element whose number you circled (in my case, “lots and lots and lots of money”) and compare that element to the third item on your list, which let’s say is my hypothetical case is “three-month luxury vacations.” Ask yourself, “Which do I feel is more important, the first element whose number I circled or element number 3 on my list?” In my hypothetical case, assuming I may have lots and lots and lots of money from my ideal career as well as three-month luxury vacations, let’s say I still feel the money is more important—more core to my dream—than the vacations. But I could just as well have chosen the vacations over the money, again, assuming I can have both. Circle the number of the element you prefer.
- Continue down the list, comparing the last item you circled with the next item on the list, until you have finished the list.
- Now go back and read each element in your list that you circled on your way down the list. You may have circled the same one throughout, or changed your mind several times. The point is, the very last element that you circled on your way down your list is the Ruling Passion for your ideal dream: that is, it represents the element you feel deep down is the most important quality, experience, or benefit that your dream is designed to bring you. And the other elements you circled on your way to the last one you circled are the Secondary Passions your ideal dream is designed to fulfill.
- Remember, you do not have to give up the elements you ended up not circling. They remain important. But in working the Wheel of Creation to make your ideal dream come true, it is the Ruling Passion and Secondary Passions you will need to keep focused upon as you plot the strategies, actions, support, and communication required to manifest your heart’s desires.
Next: The Wheel of Creation: Action.