A Message From “The Family”: On Finding the Love You Want

There is a story running about in physical reality that all one has to do in order to be happy forever is to locate, connect with verbally, and interact nurturingly with another human being who embodies every aspect of spiritual, intellectual, emotional, and moral value which the seeker feels is missing from  him- or herself.

beautiful_couple(For the sake of this blog post) we shall call the ideal beloved ‘the Cheese’, and the one seeking the beloved ‘the Mouse’.

Mister Rand is appalled by this analogy. “We are speaking of an intimate human relationship here,” he objects, “not a relationship of predator and prey!” To which we reply, “You could have fooled us.” [<- jest] For in looking over Mister Rand’s shoulder, as it were, while he is exploring different online dating sites for possible suitable partners, we are struck by the preponderance of attribute-lists and photographs presenting the seeker as not so much a person as a tangle of goods dangling in the shop window of the heart. “Purchase me!” cries the tangle of dangling goods. “Purchase me!” But how can one poor tangle of goods hope to attracts purchasers when there are so many other dangling tangles for the tangle-seeker to choose from?

“Ah!” exclaims Mister Rand. “That is where the concept of ‘soul mate’ comes in! If It Is Meant To Be, I shall meet my perfect mate if I simply stay open to the blessings of love.” The difficulty, as we see it, with this concept is multi-fold. Firstly, we see humans as expanding experiential consciousness constructs/vectors, always expanding experience of the One during their time in physical reality. To say that Mister  Rand has a “perfect” mate suggests that at some point in the expansion experience one reaches a state of completion. But we do not see this as the case.

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Moon-Pie & I, 2008, Santa Fe, New Mexico

Secondly, we do not see Mister Rand as requiring a savior, because we do not see Mister Rand as, ultimately, in peril. In his vision of November 2013, when his earthly consciousness intersected with the part of him that dwells on the Plane of Light and Sound, Mister Rand temporarily awoke from the dream of spacetime and found himself Home in the deepest sense of the word. He found himself in a “place” so safe that he knew beyond the shadow of a doubt that nothing whatsoever could take from him anything essential to his being and becoming. He experienced reality as a plane of utter Love, aware of him down to the smallest flap of skin on his tricep area, utterly accepting of him, utterly supportive of him, utterly lacking in the slightest need to change, chastise, or vilify him in any way. And It could take this attitude towards Mister Rand because It was complete in Itself, and therefore free to love without stint or condition, requiring from him in return no praise, no worship, nor even thanks.

For Mister Rand, the most striking factor of this experience was the sense of its ordinariness. It felt completely familiar to him, this place of quiet, total, acceptance and support—so familiar that he could not understand how he could possibly have forgotten that this ultimately was Reality. [To mistake] the constantly changing subreality of spacetime [for] core reality felt absurd to Mister Rand.

So to Mister Rand, whom we love, we say, “By all means hang up on the Internet whatever dangling bits you feel proud of and happy with. But do not, we beg of you, seek one who will complete you. You are already complete, and so is he. Seek one who can recognize your beauty and celebrate it, even as you recognize his beauty and celebrate it. For of this is the Kingdom of Heaven. •

— Channeled Monday, August 14, 2017, by Rand Lee.

 

A Few Rules For A Rich Life (with Caveats)

  1. Get a job. If you can’t find one, make one up and go for it. If you can’t do this, volunteer. Volunteering often leads to paid jobs.
  2. Work your butt off. That is, throw yourself completely and enthusiastically into whatever you are doing.
  3. Rest frequently. Even a 5 minute eyes-closed phone-turned-off door-locked DO NOT DISTURB rest can refresh and heal you like nobody’s business.
  4. Cultivate your friendships. Gardens and friendships both require feeding, watering, weeding, and (occasionally) hard pruning in order to stay healthy.
  5. Don’t blame others for your mistakes. On the other hand, don’t blame yourself for your mistakes, either. Simply accept that you are human, and have made a mistake, and resolve to learn from it so your pain is not repeated.
  6. Notice, and release, “us-them” thinking wherever possible. 
  7. Don’t despair. It’s the nature of reality to change frequently, and there are no last chances for happiness even on your deathbed.
  8. Cultivate gratitude. However resentfully and reluctantly, make a conscious daily effort to notice at least one blessing in your life.
  9. Make a sincere effort, then release the need to control the results.
  10. Ask for what you really want, not what you think you can get.
  11. Budget.
  12. Make the most of the opportunities you have instead of wasting energy wishing you had better ones.
  13. Keep looking for better ones.
  14. Don’t lie, even when they do.
  15. Don’t sign anything you don’t understand. Don’t be ashamed to ask for explanations.
  16. Try to do as good a job in the small things as you do in the large.
  17. Don’t criticize others behind their backs. If you can’t find something good to say, hum.
  18. If in doubt about what decision to make, consider putting off the decision for 3 minutes, 3 hours, 3 days, 3 weeks, 3 months, or 3 years. By that time either the situation will have resolved itself, another opportunity will have arisen, or you will have been shown what to do.
  19. Keep your numbers. That is, keep track of how much money you earn and how much money you spend from day to day, so that at the end of the month you have a better idea of your spending patterns, and how to revise your budget in light of those patterns.
  20. Encourage the young, but don’t preach to them.
  21. When you make a mistake, ask, “What can I do differently next time?” The only failures are those who refuse to learn from failure.
  22. Exercise, however feebly. It soothes depression and sharpens the mind.
  23. Drink lots of water.
  24. Trust yourself.
  25. Don’t say “Yes” when you want to say “No”, and vice versa.
  26. Ask for help. Keep on asking as many sources as you can until you get that help you need.
  27. Don’t waste time worrying about your enemies. Divine Love and Truth will handle them if you let It, either by turning them into your friends or making their influence on your life irrelevant.
  28. Respect good teachers, but eschew guru-worship. No teacher or authority figure embodies Divine Love and Truth perfectly or completely.
  29. Relax. Tense muscles bruise easily, and so do tense minds and hearts.

 

Evaluating Your Ruling Passion Exercise

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In my previous blog I outlined an exercise designed to help you clarify what you really want out of your ideal partner, career, pet, vacation, community (and any other area of experience you can think of). I urged you to choose a dream or goal or experience, then write down twenty-one physical, emotional, intellectual, or spiritual elements you feel your dream, goal, or experience must contain if you are to be truly satisfied.

Now it’s time to evaluate the twenty-one elements you have identified as essential to your ideal dream.

  1. Go to the top of your page and read the first element you listed. Now read the second element you listed. Now ask yourself, “Assuming my ideal dream will contain both these elements I have listed, which element is the more important to me?” For example, let’s say I’ve listed twenty-one elements I believe are essential to my dream career. And let’s say the first element I wrote down was “lots and lots of money.” Now I would compare item #1 to my second listed item, which let’s say is “government contracts.” Next I would ask myself, “Rand, assuming your ideal career will bring you lots and lots of money AND government contracts, which element is more important to you?”
  2. Following your gut instinct, circle the number of the element that feels more important to you or which excites you more or which feels the more core of the two. Remember: you are not giving up one of your ideal elements in favor of the other. You can have both. You are just prioritizing the two. TIP: Some people find that placing one hand on their stomachs or over their hearts makes it easier for them to tune in to their priority.  Let’s say I choose number 1, “lots and lots and lots of money.”
  3. Now take the element whose number you circled (in my case, “lots and lots and lots of money”) and compare that element to the third item on your list, which let’s say is my hypothetical case is “three-month luxury vacations.” Ask yourself, “Which do I feel is more important, the first element whose number I circled or element number 3 on my list?” In my hypothetical case, assuming I may have lots and lots and lots of money from my ideal career as well as three-month luxury vacations, let’s say I still feel the money is more important—more core to my dream—than the vacations. But I could just as well have chosen the vacations over the money, again, assuming I can have both. Circle the number of the element you prefer.
  4. Continue down the list, comparing the last item you circled with the next item on the list, until you have finished the list.
  5. Now go back and read each element in your list that you circled on your way down the list. You may have circled the same one throughout, or changed your mind several times. The point is, the very last element that you circled on your way down your list is the Ruling Passion for your ideal dream: that is, it represents the element you feel deep down is the most important quality, experience, or benefit that your dream is designed to bring you. And the other elements you circled on your way to the last one you circled are the Secondary Passions your ideal dream is designed to fulfill.
  6. Remember, you do not have to give up the elements you ended up not circling. They remain important. But in working the Wheel of Creation to make your ideal dream come true, it is the Ruling Passion and Secondary Passions you will need to keep focused upon as you plot the strategies, actions, support, and communication required to manifest your heart’s desires.

Next: The Wheel of Creation: Action.