A Message from Rand: The Ruling Fear Meditation

My late partner, Stuart “Alex” Lucker, channeled a writing exercise designed to help people identify what we want—or fear—most about a certain situation or aspect of our lives. This exercise, which I call the Ruling Passion Meditation, can be applied to subjects we would consider negative. So for this blog post, we’re going to take on the topic of our fears.

The Ruling Fear Meditation

  1. Number a sheet of paper  from 1 through 21 down the lefthand side.
  2. Set your timer for 5 minutes.
  3. Now write down everything you are afraid of, big, small, and in between. Write down whatever occurs to you, no matter how you are tempted to deny it. (Only you are going to see this exercise sheet, so you can be totally honest with yourself.)
    • The fears you write down might include fears around physical matters such as money, an upcoming vacation, losing one’s job, the roof of your house caving in, screwing up the math exam, contracting a terminal illness, nuclear war, being cut out of mother’s will, bankruptcy, staying fat forever.
    • Your fears may include inner, feeling-oriented matters such as a spouse leaving you for someone else; trouble with in-laws; the safety and happiness of your child or pet; rejection by teachers, family, and potential life-partners; feeling alone and unloved.
    • Deep intellectual, spiritual, and ethical fears, too, can be listed, such as fear that death is the end and a loving Higher Power is a fantasy; fear you have missed your true life’s purpose; fear you have chosen the wrong profession; fear that your work accomplishments will be derided, stolen, disproved, or forgotten.
  4. Try to come up with 21 different or related fears, one fear per line. If you can’t think of 21, or if you think of more than 21, list all those you can think of and stop there.
  5. Next, we’re going to grade the fears by intensity.
    • Set your timer again, this time for 2 minutes.
    • Read each fear in turn, asking yourself, “On a scale of 1 through 5—1 being the absolute worst, and 5 being simply bothersome—how strong is this fear in me today?” Number each fear from 1 to 5. Go down the list ranking each fear as quickly as possible, guessing if you’re not sure; don’t overthink it.
    • Now put a check mark next to all the fears you ranked number 1 or number 2. These are your Ruling Fears, the things, people, situations, and/or outcomes you most dread. Now you can take these fears and work on finding all the support you may need for taking action on how to prevent what you most fear from manifesting.

Next Time: The Family answers your questions (and mine) on any topic of concern.

A Message From ‘The Family’: On Giving Thanks

ImageGratitude, Mister Rand informs us, is a muscle he has yet to build up hugely. He says that when he hears slogans in his Twelve Step meetings such as, I need an attitude of gratitude, he says with a groan, Another platitude! Why, he asks, does one need an attitude of gratitude? What is an attitude of gratitude, anyway? And why is gratitude—thankfulness, appreciation,  thanksgiving—why are these spiritual disciplines [so important that they are] to be wrestled with until one achieves mastery over them? For that is how Mister Rand thinks of them.

In answer we would say we do not see it in this way.

Consider this, Mister Rand: suppose we were to say to a leaf, Be grateful for the sun, or the sun will stop shining on you. Would you not accuse us of absurdity or villainy or both? Even the mechanist views the sun as a power that shines regardless of the attitudes that any given leaf may bear toward it, if indeed a leaf can have an attitude in the human emotional sense at all. And so we say it is wicked and illogical to suggest that because one is not grateful to God or Goddess or the Universe or the Invisible Sky Friend or the Divine Pizza of Delectability or whatever one wishes to call the source of all life and love at the core of everything and everyone, that that Greater Self or Higher Power or God or Goddess or Divine Spark or deity or immoveable Object-and-Subject requires or weighs or needs or even desires such thanks as a condition of Its willingness to help said one? For we do not see God as required, needing, desiring, or even it occurring to God that HeSheItTheyCoOne might even be missing praise, thanks, gratitude, or love from the Creation, for God by Its very nature is complete within Itself and is entirely Love in all parts of Itself, desiring and thinking of nothing save how It may delight in the beings born from It and help them to fulfill their natures as uniquenesses.

In brief, Mister Rand, an attitude of gratitude is not a proviso you must fulfill before God will bless you. It has nothing to do with getting or not getting, as though one might hold one’s mouth a certain way and Love would flow to one. The attitude of gratitude is the natural result that occurs when one realizes how deeply, greatly, thoroughly, unceasingly, unconditionally, and intelligently the Greater Self loves one already. “Well, then,” says Mister Rand, “I will not bother with gratitude or thanks at all. I will just say, God give me this, God give me that, and to Hell with thanks.” (He wishes us to communicate that he does not really say these things, we are simply using him as an Everyman, as a terrible example of dumbfoolery, in a figurative sense as it were.) And we would reply, Go right ahead. It will not matter to God one jot or tittle. It will not grieve Her one bit, save in that She grieves that you are not large enough in the heart to receive all the blessings that She has for you.

For that is what thankfulness and gratitude enjoinders are at their core meant to convey when issuing forth from a spiritual force or tradition or teaching. They are meant to say, You do not let God do one billionth trillionth quadrillionth of the truthful loving things for you that God wishes to do, and the reason we know this is the case is because you do not feel thankful and grateful. For thankfulness and gratitude do not arise from the belief that having these attitudes will get you more blessings. Nor do they arise from the belief that having these attitudes will keep divine displeasure or punishment away from your door. “Gratitude” so-called is not thankfulness at all; it is flattery, born of fear—born of the consciousness level we call To Be Threatened.

Have you ever turned a corner and suddenly seen someone or something so beautiful, or heard a strain of music so entrancing, or had a thought so crystalline in its perfection, that you were stopped short in your tracks with the joy and wonder of it? Did you pause to say to yourself, “Oh, that is beautiful, entrancing, perfect, and wonderful. I will make myself feel joy and wonder toward it so that it will give me more of itself”? No you do not say this. The joy and wonder that stops [you] short in your tracks springs unbidden from deep within you. It is what one feels when one is shown a glimpse of one’s Divine core nature—one’s Greater Self.

Holy people, saints, boddhisatvas, whatever you wish to call those you deem enlightened or spiritually “advanced”— these persons are characterized by thankfulness and gratitude not because they tried to make themselves feel that way so that their Deity would bless them. They are thankful and grateful because their eyes have been opened to the beauty and wonder and love and light that lie around us all at every given moment. Such beings are in a constant state of delighted surprise. That state of spontaneous delighted surprise is what is meant by “Give thanks to God.”

true_strength_is_nurturing“But I do not feel grateful to God” some may say. “God let me be abused. God lets typhoons destroy villages. God lets people be raped and animals tortured,” and so forth. And these are true and terrible observations to which the only appropriate response is mourning. Of course if one is suffering from such terrible experiences one is not likely to be able to hold on to a vision of the light and love at the core of everything. Of course one is blinded by pain and fear. That is why God, Deity, Mother, Abba, the One is not angry or displeased or disappointed by those who curse HerHimItThemOne in their suffering. For the Greater Self knows that in physical reality and thought reality—where suffering is available as a byproduct of the illusion of separateness that enables beings to feel like individuals, thus granting them the pleasures of unique creativity, of personalness—maintaining a vision of the big picture, of the true nature of reality, is difficult in the extreme when one’s body and mind are lacerated with the effects of Force, Threat, and Blame.

And if the Greater Self, God, Goddess, Sky Cushion knows this it is because It is within you. It is you. It shares your nature as much as you share Its, for the whole is contained within each part, just as each part is contained within the whole. So to Mister Rand we say, do not worry yourself about being grateful or giving thanks all the time. God does not need your praise to feel good about Himself. God is not insecure. God does not possess low self-esteem. God does not require counseling.

God is Love in all parts of Godself, and thinks nothing of Godself but only of God’s creation, and how to turn your attention and your heart and your body back into a harmonious relationship with that Love and Light which It is the summation of and of which you are an expression.

And we thank you for sharing.

Channeled 9:41 pm Thursday 28 November 2013

A Message From “The Family”: On the Yearning For Love

homelessmenhuggingMister Rand has been involved of late with much pain concerning loves lost, ignored, feared, or missed.  He wonders whether he will ever find freedom from his inner child’s need to cleave to another and depend upon another totally for his sustenance, a need that has interfered with Mister Rand’s ability to relate to a beloved equal to equal. So he asks, What is it that I am fated for? Am I fated never to find a partner because of my wounds? And we know that many people ask similar questions much of the time.

We cannot provide Mister Rand [with] an answer that will satisfy him emotionally, because from our viewpoint, and the viewpoint of the Greater Self, Mister Rand is surrounded, filled, and made by Love for Itself, just [as] are all beings that exist in physical reality…And from the Greater Self’s point of view, love is never lost. It cannot be lost, because it is the stuff of which realities are constructed. It is reality itself.

But how can this be true? asks Mister Rand. In physical reality there is so much hate and pain. How can Love lie at the heart of all realities when this reality has so much evil in it? And again we say, there is no answer that can satisfy Mister Rand on the heart chakra level. For in part he still cleaves to the notion of God as omnipotent and separate from both Mister Rand and creation itself. And we do not see this as the truth.

As your writer George Macdonald once wrote, God is made of Love in all parts of Himself, and thinks nothing of Himself, but only of how He may woo His Creation back to Himself.  For God does not need anyone to love God. For God, it is enough that you love yourselves, for God does not see the divine nature as separate from you. Love one another and you love God. Love the animals and you love God. Love the trees and you love God. Love those who hate and persecute you, for they are trapped in the endless cycle of force threat and blame which narrows and narrows and narrows their consciousness until the only thing that exists for them is raw unfulfillable need. This state of raw unfulfillable need is what your writers sometimes refer to as Hell, and as Mister Rand knows only too well, one can be in Hell while still on Earth.

But  there is hope. For returning to Love is inevitable. In the end, everyone and everything is safe. Though your corporations destroy this world a thousand times over, it will be reborn. Though your religious individuals quarrel and condemn and are condemned in turn by your nonreligious individuals, beneath all this furor Love is still present. And the way one can know this is true is simply by observing that, when Love is accepted as a foundation for all one’s dealings, all one’s dealings thrive. If Love were illusory, loving others and oneself would not produce happiness and joy. They would produce only hunger for more love. For understand this: the yearning-love of which Mister Rand speaks is not Love in the way we see things.

Yearning-Love is a state of consciousness that arises when one fears to believe that one is worthy of being loved. It is a state of consciousness that arises when one demands that God prove to one that one is lovable by sending one the perfect match. And there is no such creature on Earth or in Heaven except Love itself.

We are sorry that Mister Rand is in pain. We are sorry that he thinks that because he has more flesh on his skeleton than is healthy for him that he is an abomination and desolation; that because he is homosexual God does not want him; that because he did not save his brothers or mother or father or lover or dogs from their illnesses and deaths that he has failed Love. Physical reality is the only reality where pain is available, but its wonders are far more numerous than its pains. One must however be willing and able to see the goodness and love around one, and until one has felt fully one’s force threat and blame wounds, given them a voice, treated them with tenderness and consolation, and cradled them not to cling to them but to parent them as they were never parented, until one is willing to do this, one will feel cut off from the Love that is at the center of oneself and everything else.

And so we encourage all who suffer from unsatisfied longing for love: breathe into your heart and let out the breath slowly. Let yourself relax and soften around the clenched fist within you. Let yourself feel a bit more of the pain you are pushing out of sight, give it a voice, paint its picture, write down what it says to you. And invite Love into it. Try this with yourself for a month, and see how you feel at the end of this time. And we thank you for sharing.

Recorded in trance session, Oct. 14, 2013.

To Know That One Already Has

gleeTo Know That One Already Has is the tenth and most creative level of consciousness available to beings in physical reality.  It is a divine state of sureness in which one knows that one possesses everything one needs, has needed, and will ever need to overflow with happiness, safety, and joy. I know it is possible to experience such a level of consciousness while still in physical reality because I experienced such a state once, during a vision that came to me while I was working as office assistant to an environmental lawyer (see my blog entitled “To Love”). In this vision I felt suspended in a sea of light which knew me utterly, supported me without question, and desired nothing from me. At that instant I felt safe for the first time in my life, and I burst into tears of relief. At that instant, I knew that I already possessed everything I needed for happiness and joy. I felt complete.

It was not a state in which I was able to remain. I was and am still too bound up with my force, threat, and blame wounds to do that. But I know that, having experienced once, the consciousness of my completeness remains within me available to me again when I am ready for it.

Since I had this experience I have run into other people who have had it, too. Some of them have experienced it while on drugs; others, in meditation. Many religions report mystics,  saints, and devotees experiencing such states of completion, and record the ecstasies that arise from the experience of such states.

The state of knowing that one already has is, I believe, our true state. It is a deep state of rest. And that is why some mystics, saints, and devotees can demonstrate, while still in the physical body, acts of divine compassion and apparent self-sacrifice. I say “apparent” because, when one has achieved awareness of one’s essential completeness and safety, one knows, deep down in one’s core, that food, clothing, status, money, physical possessions, even the body itself, are not who one really is. They are accompaniments, adornments, temporarily useful perhaps, but ultimately releasable because I recognize the real me already possesses—and always will possess—deepest, eternal safety within the Divine Heart of Love.

Self-sacrifice that arises from the consciousness That One Already Has is very different from self-sacrifice that arises from force, threat, or blame. Force, threat, and blame triggered self-sacrifice is an act of violence against the self, a decision to deny oneself what one needs for happiness and joy so that others will prosper instead. And such self-sacrifice is invariably accompanied by buried resentment. Psychologists sometimes call a pattern of resentful self-sacrifice “codependency“: an addictive pattern of denying myself what I need in hopes that my giving to another will prompt him or her to give me what I need.

And so the cycle of self-examination continues, leading me back again and again to the necessity To Accept With Intent To Learn, so that I might Understand Physically, Understand Spiritually, Give myself what I need, and ultimately Know That I Already Have everything I require for happiness and joy: Love Itself, Who is eternal, changeless, undiminishable, and intensely, supremely personal.

To Understand Spiritually

buddhaSometimes understanding of the physical and psychological elements and processes involved in a painful situation is not enough to correct the situation, or to prevent the situation from occurring. In such cases it may be helpful to ask questions designed to uncover the greater or deeper context in which the situation has arisen. Understanding a situation from the broadest possible viewpoint I call To Understand Spiritually.

What I consider broad understanding may not be what you consider broad understanding. To the materialist, the broadest possible understanding of a situation may be accomplished by considering the theoretical, philosophical, ethical, moral, historical, or cultural influences on the situation. To the religiously inclined person, the broadest possible understanding may involve exploring the karmic, energic, metaphysical, mythic, or divine influences on the situation.

I consider both approaches useful as long as the seeker of understanding maintains an open mind during the search. Some of us become so attached to a particular way of looking at the world that we become blind to certain truths. It is all too easy to dismiss elements of a situation when they appear to challenge one’s belief systems.

It is vital to bear in mind that the purpose of understanding my painful situation is so that I can take steps to relieve the suffering my situation is causing me. This may seem obvious, but I have found that in many cases, despite years of suffering over a situation of force, threat, or blame, I find that I resist taking the steps necessary to change my situation. Sometimes my resistance is connected to fear of failure or fear of punishment should I succeed in changing my situation (threat). Sometimes my resistance is connected to belief that I do not deserve for my suffering to be relieved (blame). In such cases, I must recognize and accept my resistance with the intention of learning from it, just as I had to do when I began raising myself from control, force, threat, and blame in the first place.

By continuously cultivating an attitude of willingness to accept and learn from reality, I keep my heart open to positive change. And this enables me to attain an even more creative level of consciousness, the level of consciousness that I call To Give.

NEXT: To Give.

Evaluating Your Ruling Passion Exercise

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In my previous blog I outlined an exercise designed to help you clarify what you really want out of your ideal partner, career, pet, vacation, community (and any other area of experience you can think of). I urged you to choose a dream or goal or experience, then write down twenty-one physical, emotional, intellectual, or spiritual elements you feel your dream, goal, or experience must contain if you are to be truly satisfied.

Now it’s time to evaluate the twenty-one elements you have identified as essential to your ideal dream.

  1. Go to the top of your page and read the first element you listed. Now read the second element you listed. Now ask yourself, “Assuming my ideal dream will contain both these elements I have listed, which element is the more important to me?” For example, let’s say I’ve listed twenty-one elements I believe are essential to my dream career. And let’s say the first element I wrote down was “lots and lots of money.” Now I would compare item #1 to my second listed item, which let’s say is “government contracts.” Next I would ask myself, “Rand, assuming your ideal career will bring you lots and lots of money AND government contracts, which element is more important to you?”
  2. Following your gut instinct, circle the number of the element that feels more important to you or which excites you more or which feels the more core of the two. Remember: you are not giving up one of your ideal elements in favor of the other. You can have both. You are just prioritizing the two. TIP: Some people find that placing one hand on their stomachs or over their hearts makes it easier for them to tune in to their priority.  Let’s say I choose number 1, “lots and lots and lots of money.”
  3. Now take the element whose number you circled (in my case, “lots and lots and lots of money”) and compare that element to the third item on your list, which let’s say is my hypothetical case is “three-month luxury vacations.” Ask yourself, “Which do I feel is more important, the first element whose number I circled or element number 3 on my list?” In my hypothetical case, assuming I may have lots and lots and lots of money from my ideal career as well as three-month luxury vacations, let’s say I still feel the money is more important—more core to my dream—than the vacations. But I could just as well have chosen the vacations over the money, again, assuming I can have both. Circle the number of the element you prefer.
  4. Continue down the list, comparing the last item you circled with the next item on the list, until you have finished the list.
  5. Now go back and read each element in your list that you circled on your way down the list. You may have circled the same one throughout, or changed your mind several times. The point is, the very last element that you circled on your way down your list is the Ruling Passion for your ideal dream: that is, it represents the element you feel deep down is the most important quality, experience, or benefit that your dream is designed to bring you. And the other elements you circled on your way to the last one you circled are the Secondary Passions your ideal dream is designed to fulfill.
  6. Remember, you do not have to give up the elements you ended up not circling. They remain important. But in working the Wheel of Creation to make your ideal dream come true, it is the Ruling Passion and Secondary Passions you will need to keep focused upon as you plot the strategies, actions, support, and communication required to manifest your heart’s desires.

Next: The Wheel of Creation: Action.

The Wheel of Creation: Harmony of Desire Hub

corridor_of_joyIf I want something and haven’t been able to create it in spacetime, chances are I have another goal I’m not admitting to, a goal that deep down I feel will be threatened if I succeed in the goal I am consciously attempting to achieve. In other words, I can block myself from fulfilling my conscious passion because I believe deep down I’m getting a more important benefit from not fulfilling it.

People with conflicting conscious and unconscious goals can’t focus energy clearly enough to manifest their desires as physical experience. The Hub of the Wheel of Creation, Harmony of Desire, teaches me the importance of listening to and acting from the heart, because it is only my true heart’s desires that I’ll feel will be worth the effort in the long run.

But what if it’s not a question of a primary heart’s desire in conflict with a secondary desire, but two primary heart’s desires in apparent conflict with one another? For example, let’s say that because of my abuse background one of my primary heart’s desires is to stay safe at any cost? And what if, at the same time, I long for deeply fulfilling intimate relationships? Unless I learn some special communication and self-care skills, I may find it difficult to maintain a feeling of emotional and sexual safety while at the same time negotiating the singles scene in order to find a suitable mate. Reconciling apparently conflicting primary heart’s desires is a chief task of the Wheel of Creation Hub.

Another chief Hub task is identifying consciously and specifically what my heart’s desires are. I call this Clarity of Vision. Many motivational programs, such as “The Secret”, focus upon this principle, which is based upon the idea that if I don’t know specifically what I wish to manifest, I will be unable to manifest it to my satisfaction. Fortunately, I have developed a tool for assisting in such clarifications. I call it the Ruling Passion Exercise.

Next: The Ruling Passion Exercise.