In absolute terms, the “self-made” man or woman does not exist in physical reality. A person may be self-directed; he or she may be omnicompetent. But no one makes their dreams come true without help. This is the main principle of the support spoke of the Wheel of Creation.
Asking for help is very difficult for many of us. We are taught from earliest childhood to become self-sufficient, and in the dog-eat-dog world of corporate competition, to ask for help is often seen as a sign of weakness and therefore of inferiority. But as a person ages, the illusion of complete self-sufficiency begins to waver. One becomes aware of limitations one was not aware one possessed, whether they be physical limitations (dwindling economic resources, difficulty walking or lifting heavy objects), mental limitations (changing memory storage capacity), emotional limitations (tendency to emotional exhaustion), or spiritual limitations (a long-held world-view challenged by new information).
In making a dream come true, asking for help from other human beings is always necessary, not just once, but many times along the way. Therefore, learning to ask for help effectively is vital to dream-realization.
Asking For Help: Some Guidelines
- Write up a flexible, detailed working strategy for making your dream come true, listing for each stage of the strategy questions to be answered, resources to be gathered, and skills to be mastered or hired.
- Drawing upon your experience, your research, and the experience and research of others, identify potential sources of help for each stage of your dream manifestation strategy.
- When time comes to approach potential helpers, work out what you are going to say beforehand. The goal is to ask for what you really need to help you execute that stage of your strategy, not what you think you can get.
- Ask at a time and place convenient to the potential helper.
- Be prepared to offer something concrete in return for the help you are requesting, if only a heartfelt “Thank you!”
- If the person or institution approached for help does not respond to your request for help, ask and keep on asking until they (a) turn you down, (b) help you, or (c) refer you to someone else who might be able to help you.
- If you are unable to locate help for the strategy-step immediately before you, re-examine your strategy. Is this truly the next step in your dream-scheme, or is there a different step you should consider taking first? Also consider the possibility that your Greater Self sees a broader picture than you do, and may be closing one door only to open another.
- Be sure and send the person who helps you a thank-you note afterwards. This will make it far more likely that she or he will be kindly disposed to helping you in future.
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