Books like Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus focus on the differences between men and women. Undeniably, biology and brain structures influence gendered thinking and behavior. Even more so does upbringing and the culture to which one belongs. But I believe that men and women possess an older nature than maleness or femaleness, a nature as accessible to the conscious mind as any script written by biology and society in the human brain.
This deeper nature is usually presented in iconography as that of the Divine Androgyne (AN-dro-jine, from the Greek words for “man” and “woman”). Sometimes the Androgyne is described as possessing the primary and secondary sex characteristics of both a male and a female. However, I see the Androgyne differently: neither as a hermaphrodite nor as a genderless neuter. To me, the Divine Androgyne is the fount from which both gender and nongender spring.
The Androgyne combines all qualities we tend to think of as contrasting or opposite: yin and yang, light and shadow, life and nonlife, in-ness and out-ness, receptivity and aggression, stillness and action, intuition and reason, place and nonplace, form and formlessness. In the Divine Androgyne, male and female exist in perfect complement, just as my guides, the Family, claim each human soul coexists in our original spiritual home, the plane of light and sound.
What is the plane of light and sound like? The Family describes it as a state of perfect loving communion in which no violation is possible. In this state, entities who wish to share essence with one another merge completely, exchanging their entire experience of themselves with one another, hiding nothing (for there is no shame there) and keeping nothing back (because there is no fear there). Then the entities part, each carrying within itself the total experience of the other.
Most human visions of Heaven, whether as a place of sensual delight or a place of purity and praise, may derive from unconscious or superconscious awareness of the plane of light and sound, a plane within which our essential selves still reside.
How can I experience such Heaven on Earth? I do not know for certain. By I do know that one step towards such perfect communion is to dwell not on the differences between us, but on our similarities. The closest thing to a She in physical reality is a He, and vice versa; each mirrors something in the other, and both are contained within each. Perhaps, if I ask sincerely, the Divine Androgyne will help me comprehend this core reality before my time in this body is done.